When was the last time you really laughed? I mean like one of those side splitting, belly laughs that you very nearly, almost pee yourself? When was the last time you did something probably quite absurd that would have your parents/grandparents recoiling in horror? When did you like do something on a whim without a care in the world? And, when was the last time you took a time out with adulting and took time to embrace your inner child?
Everyone knows that life can start to get in the way. I know I have been living life at a fast pace recently and it’s hard to know when to stop. It take it’s toll on your body and when I start getting ulcer upon ulcer on my tongue I know I need a bit of a time-out. There’s a few things that I have been adding in to my daily routine recently. For many of you, like myself, social media and keeping up to date with it is a massive part of society now. I never have my phone more than a metre away from me, which is pretty sad and not only that; it’s exhausting. I’ve been trying to figure out ways that my body can relax without technology getting in the way.
For those who don’t know I am the monthly chat host of #HappySelves on Twitter. This is a once-monthly takeover of the wonderful #HealthySelves chat. I pick a topic that is light-hearted and upbeat and we all just chat away like we would with friends over coffee. It’s so lovely to have a chat on Twitter where there’s never an argument, everyone plays nice and we are also a support network for those who aren’t necessarily feeling 100% with themselves.
It’s one of those days where I’m feeling really philosophical. I’ve just had my morning notification that my TimeHop is ready. Not heard of it? Okay, so it’s a little application you can download which scans your social media sites such as Facebook, Instagram & Twitter and manages to source all your exact photos, tweets and statuses from that exact day from years gone by.
Whilst I am all for it, the photo’s make me smile because hey, when do you ever upload a bad photo? But it’s the grim statuses that make me cringe. Most of mine are pretty light hearted. I for one cannot stand soppy or hate-filled statuses so will not abide to doing it myself but this time last year was when my Grandad was taken pretty ill. I’m not quite sure I want to relive anything that reminds me of that time?
I’m sure the aim of the game is to reminisce about some of the fantastic memories that I’ve had with my husband, family and dear friends over the years and most days it does make me chuckle to myself. But what does happen when something pops up that you don’t want to be reminded of. An ex who broke it off with you? The day your car blew up? This can’t be good for us to be reminded of that.
For example today’s offerings were a status from 3 years ago & I cringed when I read it. A preacher of none whining statuses (as I so freely admit here) I went and broke my golden rule! I have absolutely no idea what on earth I’m referring to, but whatever it was at the time clearly made me feel pretty crap.
However, fast forward to a year ago, I’m looking Happy as Larry at our local Christmas Light switch on. (And noticeably skinnier too!) Now whilst this is a happy memory, at the same time I’m looking at myself thinking ”Gosh, I wish I was that thin again!” – so it’s had a catch 22 effect on. BOOO.
TimeHop was recently in the middle of a scandal when on the anniversary of September the 11th our little TimeHop dinosaur was pretty jolly to say the least. In fact on my feed he was telling me ”Don’t Panic” which was pretty ironic.
Whilst there was a sullen image of respect below it just became distasteful. I just hope come the next anniversary they are a little more on the ball with their little captions.
For me, I do love this app & I feel myself checking it every morning to remind myself of plenty of good times. Do you have this app? Do love the fact that it brings up old memories or hate it because it brings up your past?
make a deliberately offensive or provocative online posting with the aim of upsetting someone or eliciting an angry response from them.
“if people are obviously trolling then I’ll delete your posts and do my best to ban you”
If you Google the word ‘’Trolling’’ that is the definition. Yes, it’s nothing new in this modern society but today I had my first ‘’unwanted’’ comment. I suppose I have been quite naive to not think that it would ever happen but it has, and it slapped me round the face like a wet fish. Hard. It wasn’t a particularly awful comment, but it really hurt when I read the words first time round, but then I thought why not make it in to something positive? Hence the hashtagged title #ILoveMyselfBecause.
I recently posted a styled outfit and wore something that I wouldn’t normally wear but felt confident enough in it to share with you how I had styled it. I state in most posts that I am a curvy girl and I don’t shy away from that, I choose to embrace that God has given me boobs, hips & a butt. Okay, so it’s not a Kimmy K butt but it still is a big one! Apparently, the ‘’troller’’ could not understand why everyone who had commented thought it looked nice and that in actual fact, it was rather unflattering. Interesting?
The only person I allow to criticise my own weight and body shape is myself. No-one else, not even my husband. I am what I am. I accept it. I don’t need to be told I look awful because quite frankly it doesn’t make an ounce of difference what anyone thinks, especially when it is someone sat on the other side of a computer who I haven’t met before. I will dress how I wish to dress this curvaceous figure despite what you think.
So this is really an open letter to anyone who wants to openly shame someone over the internet and try to make them feel worthless. I’m the kind of girl that won’t let this bother me, but, sadly a large proportion of girls would have read that comment and probably cried themself to sleep that night or even worse, harmed themselves because of the hurtful words you and other trolls say. I’m standing up for those who don’t feel that they have a voice.
In my little mind I have an idea to start a little mini campaign aptly named #ILoveMyselfBecause where we can celebrate our achievements and the things we genuinely love about myself. I’d love to see/read any blog posts that are inspired by the hashtag. In fact I will be incorporating this in to my next #HappySelves chat because I think it is important to give ourselves some self-love sometimes.
So listen up ‘’troll’’ #ILoveMyselfBecause of my curvy figure and that I’m not scared to try different styles and fashions along the way. I’m going to have fun with what God gave me. I will never be straight up & down, would I change myself? No. You’re damn right I wouldn’t!
I’d love to read your posts and hopefully if we get enough I would like to do a link share to all the lovely things we love about ourselves!
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